By encouraging them to follow what feels great to them, what feels exciting and joyful, I have been teaching them to follow their inner guidance in what they do and in situations they find themselves in.
I say inadvertently because it came with no mind thought, only from Love. When my first child begun school 7 years ago I was not as aware of who I really am as much as I feel today but am blessed that being a mum comes naturally to me in many ways and is something I love. From this space of love, doing and being what you love, acting and speaking from love flows naturally.
On the first day they started school I did not give them advice along the lines of, be good, do your best, listen to your teacher, be careful blah blah blah. The advice that fell from my heart and mouth was “have fun”. Each day they went I would ask them, “what’s the most important thing?” and they would say “have fun!” They’re 9 and 11 years old now and whilst I don’t say this to them everyday anymore, if you ask them whats the most important thing they’ll say “have fun”- unless they’re being cheeky and come out with an even more fabulous, fun, hilarious or clever statement- in which case they are still following the golden rule of following their bliss in the moment.
They really do live awesome lives. They breeze through school, through sports, through interactions, are loved everywhere they go, and they can and do go anywhere we feel to that’s within our capabilities at the time, because we always have fun, act with integrity (that’s another blog), aren’t afraid to stumble, start again in the next moment, appreciate and love. They are confident that they are loved. In the space of love they natural evolve. They are empowered to see they have a choice, and to choose. Over time it has naturally come up in discussions and experiences that having fun is more a state of Being rather than the outward projection, but for them it’s so naturally reflecting in their environment.
As a parent what matters most is our happiness, theirs and mine. This one simple statement and the discussions and experiences we’ve had around it, has build a foundation for them to feel what they love and empowered them to follow this within our collective framework.
Observing children is so awesome, they live so in the moment, all there every really is.
There is much more we have taught each other along the way that supports who they are Being in their worlds but I thought I’d just pull a golden nugget out for now as I was reflecting on it. Usually I dont go by rules with what I should and shouldn’t do with them so I dont remember what I teach until I feel inspired to reflect, I just be me and give them space to do the same.
Bliss in. Bliss out.